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Feedback is tricky. Too soft, and it’s useless. Too harsh, and it burns bridges. But done right, it can transform teams, careers, and even your own self awareness. The secret? Clarity, empathy, and a little courage.

When giving feedback, specificity is key. Vague statements like “You need to communicate better” leave people guessing and guessing rarely improves performance. Instead, focus on concrete examples “In yesterday’s meeting, I noticed you interrupted twice. If you let others finish, your points land stronger.” Critique behaviors, not personalities. Pair clarity with constructive suggestions explain the impact of the behavior and offer actionable next steps. Timing matters too. Ambushing someone or sending a late-night email is a recipe for defensiveness. And remember, being direct doesn’t mean being cruel; candor plus care makes feedback stick.

Neurodiversity awareness can transform the way feedback is given and received. Not everyone processes information or social cues the same way. Some team members may prefer written feedback over verbal, or need more time to process and respond. Others may interpret tone differently, or focus intensely on details, which can make general advice confusing. Recognizing these differences isn’t just kind it’s strategic. Subtle social cues can help guide your approach. For example, if someone avoids eye contact, seems quiet in meetings, or takes longer to respond, they may prefer written feedback or a one on one conversation. Someone who asks lots of clarifying questions may appreciate structured, detailed guidance. Observing and respecting these signals can make your feedback far more effective and less stressful for everyone.

Receiving feedback is an equally important skill. Start by listening, not reacting. Pause, breathe, and take in the information before your ego gets involved. Ask clarifying questions to fully understand the perspective Can you give me an example? or Which part should I focus on first? Reflecting out loud, paraphrasing what you heard, can also help confirm understanding, especially when tone or wording might be interpreted differently. Some people may request feedback in a format that works best for them, such as written notes or visual summaries, and that’s perfectly fine. Acknowledging feedback without immediate agreement, setting follow up plans, and expressing gratitude all reinforce professionalism and engagement. Even if it stings, a simple “Thank you for sharing that perspective I’ll reflect on it” goes a long way.

The best workplaces treat feedback as a habit, not a one off event. Regular check ins normalize it, creating a culture where candid conversations are not scary they are expected. Leaders set the tone by asking for feedback themselves, showing that improvement is universal, not just for others. And don’t forget to celebrate progress. Feedback without follow up is like giving someone a map and then closing it.

Candid feedback is like a muscle it grows stronger with practice. By giving it clearly, observing social cues, respecting neurodiverse processing styles, and receiving it thoughtfully, you’ll see your workplace, your team, and your career transform.

ღ Chi



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