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Walk Tall

Sometimes the people you care about the ones you laughed with, worked with, maybe even cried with, stop walking beside us. Not because you sped ahead. But because they sat down.  

And you? You kept going.  


Please don’t feel guilty for that. Don’t twist yourself into knots trying to shrink your shine so someone else feels more comfortable in their shade. You didn’t leave them behind. You just chose growth, the hard, uncomfortable, soul stretching kind and they didn’t. That’s not abandonment. That’s alignment.  


It’s easy to romanticize loyalty, to mistake longevity for connection. Loyalty without mutual growth is just stagnation. And no dream, no purpose, no version of your best self will thrive in that kind of stale air.  


You offered the conversations. You tried to inspire, invite, include. You hoped they would evolve with you. That was love. But growth is a choice. And not everyone chooses it even when you hand them every opportunity to come along.  


I give you permission to grieve what you hoped it would be. Now bless what it was and release what it never could be.  


But don’t you dare feel guilty for becoming who they chose not to become with you.  


Keep going. Some people will meet you on the next level, not by accident, but because they’ve done their own work. And when they do, you will recognize them. Not by the history you share, but by the future you are both willing to build.  


Until then? Walk tall. The road ahead is for those who choose to move.  


ღ Chi



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