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Leadership Flex

Big leadership energy is not just about the all hands meetings, the strategy decks, or the carefully crafted vision statements. It is also about the small stuff, the tiny moments that build trust (or break it) without anyone even noticing. Micro-moments, coined in the world of marketing, and beautifully weaponized by Julia Arndt in the realm of well being. Micro-moments are bite sized, intentional actions that shift your day and your culture. If you are a leader trying to create a better team environment without a massive change management plan? This is your lane.

We talk a lot about leading by example. But most of that example? It is not the big speech. It’s not the bold decision. It is whether you actually listen when someone speaks. It is whether you send midnight emails and expect your team to match it.
It is whether your feedback lands as clarity… or control.

So before we get cute with strategy, let’s get smart with presence. You can not pour from an empty inbox, or whatever that metaphor is. The point is, you go first. These moments are for you to reset, recharge, and model boundaries like a pro.

Micro-Moments for You

1. The Sunlight Check-In
Step outside for two minutes. Just you, the light, and the reminder that you exist outside of your to do list.

2. The One Sentence Intention
Before your day drags you under, set the tone. "Today, I lead with clarity, not urgency." "Today, I make space before I make noise."

 

3. The Inbox Reset Timer
Five minutes. Clean up what you can. Then stop. progress > pressure.

 

4. The Permission Post-It
Stick a daily note on your desk: “I do not owe instant replies.” “My presence is more valuable than my pace.” These aren’t fluff. These are operational self respect.

 

Micro-Moments for Your Team

(Because they are watching.)

What you model becomes the mood. These micro-moments say, I see you. I respect you. I care about how this job feels, not just what it gets done.

1. The 60-Second Clarity Loop
End meetings with: “Do we all know what happens next?” Confusion is silent. Clarity builds trust.

2. The “Thanks for That” Ping
Notice and name the effort. “I saw how you handled that tricky client.” “I appreciate how you stepped up in that call.” Two lines. Ten seconds. Massive impact.

 

3. The Check-In
Someone seems off? Say: “You okay today?  It is not an interrogation. It is an invitation to be real.

 

4. The First Word Pass
Let someone else speak first. Especially someone quiet. Power sharing is people building.

5. The Calendar Audit
Cancel one meeting that does not need to exist and say why. You are modeling sanity. That is leadership.

6. The Micro Feedback
Catch something great and say so right then. “That was a clear, calm response under pressure.” Reviews are yearly. Feedback should be daily.

 

Lead in the quiet moments. You do not need a six month initiative to create culture.
You need intentional moments, repeated often. Leadership is not what you announce. It is what you practice. So the next time your team feels like it is drifting…
The culture feels like it is slipping…Or your brain is buffering…

Pause.
Breathe.
Lead small.

Because how you show up in the in between?

That is the real leadership flex.

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Chi


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