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Love & Fire

I like people who lead with love but are still full of fire.

I like the ones who send the kind check in and call out the chaos.

The ones who know how to deescalate and when to go full dragon mode.

The ones who lead with love but never lose their edge.

 

Because love without fire can turn into people pleasing.

And fire without love? That’s just ego.

 

Give me the leader who hugs you and still holds you accountable.

Who builds trust with care,

And breaks silence with courage.

 

Who holds space and holds standards.

Who asks how you are and still asks why the work is late.

Who believes in grace, not passivity.

Compassion, not complacency.

Courage, not control.

 

The ones who say,

Take your time but take responsibility, too.

You matter and so does the mission.

I see you and I won’t let you shrink.

 

Because leadership without love is brittle.

And love without backbone bends too far.

 

The best ones carry both.

A calm presence and a fierce standard.

A gentle hand and a fire in the gut.

 

They don’t lead louder they lead deeper.

They don’t raise their voice to lead.

They raise the temperature of what’s possible.

 

And give me the leader

who doesn’t flinch at feedback,

who listens with their whole body

not just with ears, but with presence.

With eye contact that says, I’m here.

With posture that’s open, not defensive.

With stillness that makes space for truth to land.

With attention that doesn’t wander.

 

The one who knows that clarity is kindness,

and silence can be a form of harm.

The one who doesn’t just hold the vision

they hold the people who carry it.

 

They don’t confuse urgency with pressure,

or empathy with softness.

They know that real strength

Is not loud it’s consistent.

 

They don’t just light fires under people.

They light fires within them.

 

Because the best leaders don’t just lead teams.

They build movements.

They don’t just manage performance.

They nurture purpose.

 

And if you’ve ever been told to tone it down

To be less bold, less tender, less you

Remember

 

You are not too much.

You are the spark and the shelter.

The storm and the stillness.

 

Lead on.

With love.

And with fire.

ღ Chi

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