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Bricks in My Pocket

Let’s talk about the myth, the legend, the unicorn of corporate wellness work life balance.

On paper, it is simple. Work at work. Be home at home. Easy, right? Just like assembling IKEA furniture without crying. There is a manual. There are tools. But somehow, halfway through, you are questioning every decision that got you here. Because here is the unspoken truth, for a lot of people, that clean boundary between work and life is a luxury. A perk. Something handed out between catered lunches and team building retreats. For the rest of us? That boundary is porous. Fluid. Sometimes, work kicks down your front door and sits at your dinner table. Other times, life leaks into your calendar invite with a dentist appointment, a daycare pickup, or a frantic text about forgotten lunch boxes.

You might be thinking: Chi, it’s just a spreadsheet. It can wait. But let’s be honest with each other when that spreadsheet pays for groceries, braces, rent, and maybe the occasional therapy session, it is not just data. It is survival in cells  That no pressure deadline carries the weight of your family’s week. Maybe even their month. We have all done the dance. You are slicing vegetables with one hand and sending emails with the other. You are sitting in a meeting nodding at synergy talk while mentally planning a birthday party on a budget. You are on PTO and still checking Teams (just in case) because relaxing is harder when unread notifications sit like bricks in your pocket. If we are being honest with ourselves. Work life balance is not a switch you flip. It is a chaotic tango between I got this and I am one Teams ping away from screaming into a pillow.

So here’s to the real ones:

  • The parents who hit mute mid meeting to break up a sibling cage match.
  • The vacationers who check in just real quick before the guilt settles in.
  • The hourly workers clocking out physically but staying mentally logged in because bills do not care about boundaries.
  • The PowerPoint soldiers who whisper sweet talking points into the night because peace of mind sometimes looks like getting ahead.

Because no, I am not logging off early to recharge. I am mentally having tomorrows meeting while reheating leftovers and pretending I did not just respond to an email from the bathtub. Balance is not a boundary. It is a negotiation. A constant, shifting deal you make with yourself.
What do I need to deliver today, and what do I need to do to keep myself from unraveling?

Some days, you win. You are present. You are centered. You close the laptop, light a candle, and breathe like one of those apps told you to.

Other days, the PowerPoint wins. And that’s okay, too.

I think maybe the real balance is not about separating work and life, it is about surviving both.

ღ Chi

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