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Character & Capacity

This morning it hit me. Coffee in hand, staring out the window, a crystal clear thought landed. Sometimes, I'm just too much for certain people. And you know what? That’s perfectly okay. Actually, it’s more than okay, it’s a sign.

How many times have you heard it? "You do too much." "Just relax." "Why are you always going so hard?"

My response used to be a mumbled defense or a quiet retreat. Not anymore. Today, the answer roared back.

I am not doing too much. I'm actually doing the LEAST.

Let that sink in. What you see? The curated version. The dialed back energy. The passion carefully measured so it doesn't scorch delicate sensibilities. The truth is, if I were fully unleashed, doing exactly what fires me up, living at the intensity I crave? Some of you would have been long gone.

It’s not about being intentionally overwhelming. It’s about having a fire inside that demands expression. It’s about seeing potential in myself, in the world, in you and wanting to reach for it. Constantly.

The real issue isn't my "too much." It's about finding the right circle.

I need people built with Character deep roots, integrity, honesty that stands firm even when it's uncomfortable. People who aren't threatened by ambition, but are fueled by it.

I need people with Capacity not just bandwidth, but depth. The emotional and mental space to handle realness, passion, big dreams, and sometimes, big feelings. People who understand growth isn't always neat and quiet.

Here is my truth, and my standard.

If you are going to be at ten, living authentically, striving for your purpose, embracing your brilliance, I will meet you there. I will match that energy. I will celebrate your climb. I will push you, support you, and expect you to push me right back. I want to witness you becoming everything you were called to be. Not a watered down version. Not a dimmed light. The full, blazing, magnificent potential that resides within you.

But if your comfort zone is at five? If my drive makes you nervous, my passion feels like pressure, and my vision for more seems like too much. Then understand this, I am not dimming my light. Not anymore. I spent too long trying to fit into boxes that were always too small.

This is not arrogance. It's alignment. It’s realizing that holding myself back to make others comfortable is a disservice to everyone, especially myself. It drains me and it doesn't truly serve them either.

So, to those who find me too much, I genuinely wish you well. Our paths might simply diverge. Your peace might lie in quieter pastures, and that's valid.

To my tribe, my real circle. The ones with the Character and the Capacity the other at tens climbing their own mountains? Buckle up. Let's ride. Let's build. Let's hold each other accountable to the highest versions of ourselves. Let's be unapologetically too much together. Because that's where the magic happens. That's where we truly live.

ღ Chi

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